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| Shame |
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| Embarrassment |
It may not seem like there is difference, however there is. That difference being the time it takes for one to recover from that feeling or situation that once hindered them. It may take a while or a few minutes for one to realize that they are no longer affected by that feeling. One of these feelings is seen as short terms affect and the other is a long term affect. Embarrassment will be the short term affect, for it slowly fades away as time goes on and they forget why they were embarrassed. The one affected realizes it was not as big of deal as it seemed. Later, that feeling of embarrassment will turn into a good laugh. On the other hand, shame is a long term affect and can often times deeply affect and person and their views of themselves and anyone else involved. Being ashamed of yourself or your situation can feel as if there is a cloud hanging over your head as a constant reminder of that shame that one feels. It often times is difficult to forget. Being embarrassed or ashamed comes in different forms and can affect different ages.
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| House on Mango Street |
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| Children feel shame and embarrassment |
Everyone in their lifetime will experience both
of these affects. Even at a very young age a child can experience the feeling
of shame and embarrassment. Not the typical accident children make and they
blush and turn bright red from being embarrassed, but ashamed of themselves.
Embarrassment and Shame have two separate meaning. One can be embarrassed about
something that had occurred and eventually laugh about it later. Shame or being
ashamed is on a different level. One can be ashamed of themselves or their
situation and it stays with them for some time. Sandra Cisneros captures this
feeling of being ashamed through the eyes a young girl, in her work, The House
on Mango Street. At a young age a child can be aware of their family's
situation and feel embarrassment from it. This is common and heartbreaking to
know that many children are aware of worst situations that are occurring. The
main character, Esperanza, is a young girl but is aware of more than most
people around her. She is very observant and understands many situations that
are above her age level. Esperanza comes from a not so fortunate family and
they struggle every now and then. She is well aware of this and is ashamed of
the house she lives in the area she lives in. Once a nun from her school had
asked her where she lived and when Esperanza had pointed out her family’s
little red house the nun’s response was, “You live there?”. The nun’s response
had made Esperanza feel like nothing. Through the book, Esperanza constantly
attacks her home and the area in a negative way and is ashamed of her and
situation. For a young child to be able to say that they feel like nothing is
heartbreaking. Children should not be focused on the type of house they live in
nor should they ever feel like nothing. Children need to focus on being
carefree and enjoying the time they have as a child. As an adult they can then
worry about their living situation and other issues that hinder them. Even as
adults no one should feel embarrassed or ashamed of what they have, but instead
feel blessed with what they have. Even if it is not what they wish they had and
if needed they should reach out for help.
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| Food Banks on Campus |
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| Donations |
It's very common for people to hide
their feelings and emotions. This adds stress to their original dilemma that
was hindering them. Many people refuse to cry out for help, because they are
embarrassed to ask for help. Asking for
help should not be viewed as a negative feeling. Many people choose not to ask
questions or ask for help, because they are embarrassed to. This should not be
the case. There are many people in the world willing to assist those in need
and just waiting to be asked. No one likes to admit that they need help,
especially in college. Many students are scared to ask questions during class,
because they fear someone will judge them or they are embarrassed to ask for
help. Especially during hard economic times people refuse to ask for help. Hard
times have hit everyone in some way or another. For some, it is not a dramatic
change that causes trouble down the road. Unfortunately for others, it is as if
their world has been turned upside down. Money can be an enemy or a hero. For
most college students it is an enemy, because it takes over everything around
the whether it's paying for tuition or a meal. As the years go by, prices are
rising and people are unable to keep up. Most college students are working part
time jobs to save up extra money for necessities they need to survive. The main
necessity is food. Food is fuel for their brain to help them succeed with their
studies. With how the economy is these days, many college students are unable
to afford food. Across America there are several college students that are
unable to feed themselves and go to bed hungry. They will go to bed hungry,
because they are embarrassed to ask for help. Most are ashamed to admit it.
Luckily there is always someone seeking to provide help. Even though many
students are ashamed of their situation and will not speak up for themselves,
others are speaking out for them. Across the United States many universities
are now carrying food banks on campus for students. The food banks found on
campus have sparked life back into students that were once hiding under their
shame. The food banks are mostly collected donations and are based on whatever
people are able to donate. It is absolutely anonymous and students do not need
to sign any paperwork or provide their information to secure them from any
further embarrassment. No one should ever feel ashamed of the situation brought
before them, but instead seek assistance.
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